Friends ask me what it’s like to be “off the leash” and no longer working a 9 to 5. I feel like it hasn’t been that long since I left my full time job but it’s been since the end of July so about 1 month. Truth is, it’s been great!
I have the flexibility to take care of home, drop off and pick up my kids and pursue the path God has for me. I love having a chance to actually sit down and ask my kids how their day was instead of listening with one ear and talking to them over the clanging of pots and pans or in the middle of washing dishes. I get to give them focused attention and really be present. We’ve been reading Tales of a Fourth Grade Nothing by Judy Blume – one chapter a night and they get REALLY into it. We’re on the chapter when Peter is put in charge of Fudgie’s birthday party. Poor Peter.
A few weeks ago Julia said to me, “Mom, I need attention.” I don’t remember what it was I was doing but she was right. She does. Of my three littles, I’m sad to say that Julia gets the short end of the stick. On one hand she acts so stinkin mature that it’s almost like there’s another full grown adult (who occasionally needs her bum wiped) living in our house. I have to remind myself that she’s only 4, especially when she says to me, “Mommy, why are you trying to be cuter than me?” lol I never really know how to respond to that so I say, “I can never be cuter than you, Julia!”
Someone once said, “You validate people’s lives, by the attention you give them” and for children this is the absolute truth. The only way they know you love them is by your actions. They don’t fully understand the concept of love like adults do, but they know it when they’re not getting it. For many parents, it’s not until it’s too late that they realize the kind of attention their child did get versus the kind of attention the child didn’t get makes a huge impact on the life path the child chooses to take as a teen and into early adulthood.
I thank God for the opportunity to spend more time with my littles and my husband. Not every parent does so I must seize the moment.
- 100 Must Reads for Kids ages 9-14 and ML’s Mom (mlreads.wordpress.com)
- Goodbye Ramona, Hello Margaret (stirrup-queens.com)
- Author Judy Blume still standing up for kids (newsobserver.com)
- Teaching Children About Money: How to Explain a CD to Your Child (ally.com)
- Judy Blume on first book-turned-movie Tiger Eyes (cbc.ca)
- Superfudge (opesopinions.wordpress.com)
- Great Chapter Books I’ve Read Lately (maddysbookblog.wordpress.com)
- Readers blame parents for teen ‘sexting’ trouble (cbc.ca)
- Download Judy Blume Boxed Set (Fudge-a-Mania, Otherwise Known as Sheila the Great, Tales of a Fourth Grade Nothing, Superfudge) e-book (egwaxaj.wordpress.com)