I suspect that guys don’t understand the whole “boyfriend” jeans trend precisely because of how my bum looks in this first picture. LOL Frankly, I don’t understand why we love them so much either but since when do women need a reason to follow the trends of fashion? Amen to you too!
This blogging thing has generated a wide range of inquiries by way of email. Some of you have emailed me about items that you want to buy off my back, which in many cases I’m happy to oblige. Others have emailed me with encouraging words to feed my soul. Still others, email me about life events that you’re desperate for advice on. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. I’m not an expert…on anything. And I’m certainly not perfect by any means. I try to live life by the Golden Rule and trust God in all that I do. In most cases, this steers me in the right direction, but like everyone I have my times where I fall, when I’m confused and when I just not in a great place. These are times when I feel like I just need some good old fashioned sit-down-and-talk time and even a good cry.
I got an email the other day from a girl (who I’m calling our “friend”) asking for some advice about a situation she was going through. In all honesty, it kind of caught me off guard but I could tell she desperately needed a heart-to-heart. Here’s what she said:
I have been following your blog for quite some time and I love it. I am coming to you for some advice. I was raised in the church, still fully believe in God like I did almost four years ago. The only difference is I stopped ignoring my attraction to women. I came out a year ago to my family and at first they took it hard but have since came around because they would rather me be happy and still in their life. However my girlfriend’s family is not so forthcoming. They have disowned her and every chance they get bash her because “she knew they would not approve of this type of relationship”. We are planning on moving next year to a different state and eventually plan on getting married and having a family. I want her family to at least know and be a part of her life, but she is taking the stance of “oh well I do not care” when I know that she cares. I know that you are happily married and probably do not know how it is to be in this situation, but I am asking for advice because you are always writing uplifting words on your blog and thought maybe you could help me see this from a different view point. If you have any words of encouragement I will greatly appreciate them.
[Insert deafening silence] After I re-read the email a couple of times and let it digest, it began to sink in how different each of our life-walks are. How different my life is from hers. How different yours is from mine. Yet, there are some very intrinsic similarities that we as women possess simply because of our makeup. I believe one of those similarities is the need to FEEL loved. Notice, I didn’t say the need to BE loved. There’s a difference. Feeling loved is an experience that is sometimes confused with BEing loved. Unfortunately for many of us, we yearn to FEEL loved rather than to actually BE loved and we don’t even realize it. It’s not only the mind that plays tricks on us, the heart does as well. You don’t have to take my word for it, just ask Jeremiah.
Wait a minute! Let me back this train up because this isn’t where I was planning to go. LOL Back to the point of this post…I prayed about this email for a few days because I wanted to respond in love and offer our hurting friend some sound advice. I finally acknowledged that this was bigger than me and that I needed you! So, here I am, soliciting you. I know how insightful you are and I wanted to make sure that we come along side our friend and offer prayerful, constructive and honest feedback. With our friend’s best interests at heart, what do you think? if this were your friend, your sister, your daughter, what would you say?
Oh and how rude of me, Happy Valentine’s Day! You guys show me love like there’s no tomorrow. You’re the greatest!