Remember in high school when there was all this pressure to fit in. Isn’t it interesting how some things change but some things stay the same. Even as an adult, there’s pressure to fit in. There’s pressure to drive a certain car, have a certain job, have a certain kind of relationship status, and even raise your kids a certain way. Sorry to say it but sometimes the only reason others want you to fit in is that once you do they can ignore you and go about their business. Be you and be the best you, you can be. because that’s the only person you can be.
For some, the new year brings with it hopes for the future, a fresh start pr a time to turn over a new leaf. Sadly, for others, the new year brings resentment towards people and things that didn’t fall into the perfect plan they had concocted. Everything didn’t go quite as planned.
I wonder how many of us stop to understand that sometimes not getting what we want can be a blessing. Not getting what we want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of good luck, because it forces us to reevaluate things and before we know it, new doors to opportunities are opening and experiences you would have otherwise overlooked suddenly becomes clear as day.
What am I saying? The next time you begin to count all the many “unanswered” prayers you’ve sent up, stop and realize that God always answers prayers. The answer may not be what you had envisioned, but God always answers.
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I feel like I talk about this subject a lot, but honestly I believe that when the Lord drops hints you’d be best to pick them up. As you may know, I subscribe to Girlfriends in God‘s daily devotional. This website offers support to women across the world in an attempt to strengthen their relationships with God. The email I got this morning was one about family and the importance of speaking positivity. I couldn’t keep to myself. I had to share. Not that any of you are horses, but I’m leading you to water in hopes that you’ll drink. This horse’s thirst has been quenched, I can tell you that much!
The power of the spoken word is great. Words are like seeds. What we plant will grow. If we plant negative, critical words, we will reap a family that is negative and critical. Look for the good in your family then speak it. Be a cheerleader for your family because everyone needs a cheerleader.
A little girl was eating breakfast with her Daddy. They were on a “date,” spending special time together. He was telling her how wonderful she was and how proud he was to have her as a daughter. When he had done what he thought was a sufficient job, he picked up his fork and began to eat. His daughter put her hand on his arm and stopped him with these words, “Longer, Daddy, longer.” He didn’t eat much food that day but a little girl’s hungry heart was fed. Do have any hearts like that in your family?
CBS released a movie about Karen Carpenter, the great singer who rose to stardom singing with her brother, Richard. At the age of 32, she died unexpectedly of heart failure due to many years of abuse caused by Anorexia. What brought on Karen’s fatal obsession with weight control? It seems that a reporter once called her “Richard’s chubby sister.”
Psalm 141:3 “Set a guard over my mouth, O LORD: keep watch over the door of my lips.”
Before speaking, ask yourself the following questions:
T is it true
H Is it helpful
I is it inspiring
N is it necessary
K is it kind
Think before you speak. Use the five to one ratio when correcting – five positive remarks to one negative comment. The harder the truth, the more love we should use in saying it. It is our responsibility to use our words to train and instruct our family about the daily things in life, but more importantly, to instruct them about the eternal things. We are very concerned about providing for our children when we need to be more concerned about caring for our children. The greatest care we can give is to disciple them by speaking words of truth. Guard your tongue.
I hope this is encouraging to you and helps you to remember that your family, especially your children, look up to you. Cherish them!
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Today, I want you to use your imagination. I want you to imagine your husband sitting at his desk or at a quiet place at work. Imagine him lost in thought about how blessed he is to have you as his wife. He holds your framed picture in his hand and moisture begins to pool in his eyes. He is captivated.
All the riches in the world are not to be compared with the jewel I have in this woman, he muses. What did I ever do to deserve her? God has given me such a gift. All our married life, she has done nothing but love me, bring out the best in me, and look out for my best interest. All the guys at the office are envious of our relationship. I see the way their eyes soften when she comes by just to tell me hello, grabs my hand when we’re at office functions, or pecks me on the cheek for no apparent reason. I notice that her loving words to me are in stark contrast to some of the cutting remarks of other wives…and so do my friends. I look around at the accomplishments of my life, but having this woman as my wife is my greatest. Oh sure, there are many women out there in the world who are accomplishing great feats, but my wife…well, she surpasses them all.
What a picture! That’s the woman I want to be, don’t you? And amazingly my words can be the determining factor as to whether this scenario is possible or not. Did you know that there are words your husband longs to hear? Did you know that there are words we should never say?.
Words to Never Say to Your Husband
I told you so.
You just don’t think.
It’s your fault.
What’s wrong with you?
I can’t do anything to please you.
All you care about is yourself.
You never listen to me.
I don’t know why I put up with you.
What do you want now?
How many times do I have to tell you?
Words Your Husband Longs to Hear
I’ve been thinking about you all day.
What can I do for you today?
How can I pray for you today?
The best part of my day is when you come home.
You are one of God’s most precious gifts to me.
You are so wonderful.
You look so handsome today.
I don’t feel complete without you.
I will always love you.
I trust your decisions.