FASHION DU JOUR LOVES: TENNIES

FASHION DU JOUR LOVES TENNIES

Vans waffle trainer
$97 – superette.co.nz

Vans tiger shoes
matchesfashion.com

Converse white canvas shoes
$71 – johnlewis.com
 I could lie and say it’s because I work out so much that my feet just crave a soft cushioned shoe but…then I’d be lying.   So, let’s just blame it on pregnancy.  But for whatever reason, I’ve become OB.SESSED with low top tennis shoes lately.   I want them all!
What’s a fairly random fashion obsession you’ve been preoccupied with lately?
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What was…

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shoes: Steve Madden | bracelet: c/o MimiBoutique | sweater: Anne Taylor – similar - {worn backwards}skirt: old – similar - {top worn as skirt}

I’ve come to realize that the problems we have with others {our spouse, parents, siblings, etc. } don’t really have much to do with them at all.  Because many of the problems we think we have with them we subconsciously created in our own mind.  Maybe they did something in the past that touched on one of our fears or insecurities.  Or maybe they didn’t do something that we expected them to do.  In either case, problems like these are not about the other person, they’re about us.

And that’s okay.  It simply means these little predicaments will be easier to solve.   We are, after all, in charge of our own decisions.  We get to decide whether we want to keep our head cluttered with events from the past, or instead open our minds to the positive realities unfolding in front of us.

All we need is the willingness to look at things a little differently – letting go of ‘what was’ and ‘what should have been,’ and instead focusing our energy on ‘what is’ and ‘what could be possible.’

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It’s okay.

Nobody gets through life without losing someone they love, someone they need, or something they thought was meant to be.  But it is these losses that make us stronger and eventually move us toward future opportunities for growth and happiness.

It’s okay to fall apart for a little while.  You don’t always have to pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that everything is going well.  You shouldn’t be concerned with what other people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed your tears.  The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.  And a smile doesn’t always mean a person is happy.  Sometimes it simply means they are strong enough to face their problems.

No matter how chaotic the past has been, the future is a clean, fresh, wide open slate. You are not your past habits. You are not your past failures. You are not how others have at one time treated you. You are only WHO YOU THINK you are right now in this moment. You are only WHAT YOU DO right now in this moment.

Who are you, today?  What are you doing in this moment?

top: thrifted | purse: Mimiboutique.com | shoes: Steve Madden 

5 Years in the Making

Necklace: Gift | jacket: GAP | tee: unknown | skirt: DIY vintage dress | watch: Michael Kors | shoes: Soda

On May 27th, my husband and I will be celebrating 5 years of marriage.  It’s incredible to think about all that’s happened over the last 5 years, yet it still feels like we’re still newlyweds.  I turn into a big baby when I think about how far we’ve come, the ups and downs and how I blessed we are.  For my own sake, I’ll keep this post short and just tell you a couple reasons why I think we’ve made it this far:

1.  He’s funny – It may sound crazy but I love it when my husband makes fun of me.  When he imitates me,  I just think it’s the funnies thing because he’s so spot on.

2.  He keeps his word – There’s not a single time I can recall that my husband has said or promised something that he has not been able to remain faithful to.  Not a thing.  That may not mean much to the next girl, but to me it’s major.

3.  He’s a protector –   This man will stop at nothing to protect his family.  He constantly prays over us and is always looking out for our well being in every sense of the word.

4.  He’s a great cook – Need I say more?

5.  He loves God – As my pastor puts it, any man that doesn’t love God wont love you long.

By the way, do you recognize this skirt?  It used to be a dress. Remember this…

I DIY’ed this dress into a skirt.  Nothing major, I just took a pair of scissors and cut it in half, literally.  Not to shabby, if I do say so myself.

By the other way, don’t forget to enter to win a $50 Mimi Boutique giveaway.  Click on the banner below for details.

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sunnies: Rayban Wayfarers| top: (T) | shorts: Citizens of Humanity (DIY) | shoes: CSN Shoes | bag: LV Speedy 30 | belt: hubby's

Going shopping this week.  I’ll make my rounds during lunch so we’ll see how I do.

On another note, I’ve been getting more and more interested in make up…well, let’s be honest, I’ve always been interested, I’ve just never been any good at it so I don’t wear it.  You might have noticed that I wore a red lip in a recent post.  You can’t even imagine how much courage that took.  And then to take pictures of it….  Anyways, that was the first of my attempts to step my makeup game up.  Now, I just need to get my church wardrobe figured out.  I just feel like I can’t really get dressed up because I’m chasing my kids all day.  Anyways, that’s another story for another time.

Speaking of make-up, pop-in and see what’s going on over at BeautyBloc.com and get $5 off your order.  Just mention the code: FASHION  by May 31st to get $5 off whatever you order.  In some cases that equates to free shipping or a tax free purchase.  They’re even giving away an iPad 2 this month.  I’ m all over getting stuff at at discount.

P.S. Just so you guys know, I don’t get any kind of kickback (that I’m aware of) to tell you guys about and consequently the thoughts and opinions I share are 100% my own.

By the way,  be sure to see how the ROCK IT & ROLL IT Style Challenge is going and enter the shopping spree giveaway compliments of MimiBoutique.com

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scarf: old | jacket: F21 | shirt: Calvin Klein (men's) | Jeans: old | shoes: H&M | clutch: thrifted | sunnies: Ray Ban Wayfarers | polish: Fire (gel nails) | ears: POParazzice

 

 

Hey Sweethearts!  As you may recall, I mentioned in my “NYE post” that I came to the realization that what I like to write about is the going-ons of my life, my family, my faith in hopes that something I share with you will resonate and impact your life for the better.  Okay, so I didn’t put it quite like that in my post, but that’s what I meant.  With all of my heart, I hope that my words or the bits and pieces of inspiration that I come across and pass on to you help to improve your life in one way or another.  I never want to be just another predictable fashion blog, so as I said you’ll see my focus shift a bit in more of a lifestyle direction, although you’ll still see my outfits.  This brings me to the focus of today’s post.  I got a comment (from someone who shall remain nameless) who shared some pretty personal things with me.  See for yourself:

She writes:

Wow where do I begin. I have followed your bog for a while now after seeing you on Fashionbomb Daily. I instantly was impressed with your role of wife and mother as well as preacher’s wife. As a person who LOVES fashion as well it is nice to see another mother with young children who still has the time to dress so darn cute. Although most days I don’t have the strength to dress the way I want I am trying to use you as my encouragement and inspiration.

Ok, now to the serious stuff that made me finally leave a reply. I have been struggling the last few days with some issues dealing with my 12 year old son. I am beginning to worry about him and although he is a happy child with friends and enjoys school I continue to worry. I have not eaten any real meals in two days. I have felt sick to my stomach. I read your post today about growing my relationship with God and I felt a sense of relief to let the worrying go. I love my son so much and I fear losing him to the negative influences of today. I know you are probably wondering exactly what I am referring to and I would love to email you more one on one. Basically the point is that I have to let this worry go. I too have a loving family and so much to be grateful for and do not want to waste time and energy on being depressed. I am so sorry this is so long but I just wanted to say Thank you for helping me to feel a bit better

My sentiments, exactly…where to begin.  First, let me just say thank you for taking the time to leave me a comment.  Comments mean a lot to me and for you to share these intimate details of your life with me, a complete stranger, speaks volumes.  You are totally welcome to email me, Sis.

It’s clear how much you love your son.  Your words overflowed with emotion.   As I read your comment, I felt my eyes welling up because the degree to which a mother loves her child is incomprehensible.  A part of me wants time to stop, so that I can keep these early childhood times with my little ones forever.  Soon enough the roles will be reversed and they’ll no longer want to spend every waking moment with mommy as they do now.  Gosh, I’m tearing up just thinking about it.

Here’s the thing, I’m not an expert on life by any means, I’m not even an expert on fashion by any means and I’m certainly not an expert on raising children.  What I can say is that, there comes a time when we as parents, especially mothers have to come to terms with the fact that our sons are growing and turning into men, who will one day have a son or two themselves.  For us to think about every potential danger that comes near our children every single day of their lives would drive us to the crazy house.  I think about the time that I was addicted to Nancy Grace’s show about missing and abused children and I literally had anxiety attacks because I let those fears set into my heart.  When I say I prayed, girl, I prayed!  I asked God to remove those fears from my heart and mind and impart wisdom and discernment.  I believe with all my heart and soul that my children are covered by His blood.  I made it a point not to allow fear to overtake me.  While I know that there will still be times (as with any growing child) that I will not be there to make decisions for my children and I know that they will not always make the best decisions.  They will “fall” (Proverbs 24:16) but my prayer is that the good values I am instilling in them will allow them to get back up again and make the right decisions.

Your son is still very young.  You have so much influence over him, whether you know it or not.  You are who he wakes up to and goes to sleep with every night.  Continue to pray over him and over yourself.  I thank God that you’ve released that negative energy and worry.  Something my Pastor always says is “Fear” is False Evidence Appearing Real. Because God never gave us the spirit of fear (2 Timothy 1:7).  You seem like a woman of faith and so it is my hope that my words fall on good ground.  I’ll be praying for you.

I know I have several readers who are also mothers who have probably gone through or are going through similar things situations in their lives.  So, to those of you who can impart some words of  wisdom, consider this your invitation.