There are tons of ways to wear boyfriend jeans and really I don’t think you can go wrong. What’s your favorite way to were boyfriends?
A friend of mine works PR and asked me if I wanted to review a book. It was called The Happy Wives Club. . I like to consider myself a “happy wife”. I’m far from perfect and my marriage has challenges from time to time just like the next marriage, but we are happy. So, I said sure and the book was on the way.
The book arrived with a short bio of the author, Fawn Weaver. Weaver loves being married but had begun to wonder where were the other happily married women. Media portrays the existence of a happy marriage to be rare, but Fawn knew, “there must be others out there who view marriage and spending time with their husband as one of the absolute greatest blessings in their life,” as she did. So, created a FB page and website dedicated to finding 1 million happy wives. During this pursuit she decided to take her search global. She set out to learn what makes a happy marriage by traveling all over the world having conversations with happily married couples. Her book recounts what she learned during these chats over lunch, dinner and coffee and offers advice in the form of real life experiences.
Here’s an except…
” I remember a friend,” Pat recounted, “who told me one day I was going to have to wake up from this bubble I was in and live in the real world.” I knew exactly what her friend meant, because I’ve heard similar things throughout my marriage.
I asked if they had other couples similar to them, people they could hang out with who were fun, enjoyable, and adored each other as much as they did.
“We have chosen our friends very carefully. We have a lot of friends, but the ones we socialize with, go out with most often, we don’t have many of those because we might irritate them,” Henry responded. ”We have only a core group of friends we choose to be around, because they complement us and we think we complement them. Others are destructive to our relationship.”
Henry and Pat are highly selective of who they associate with on a regular basis. They’ve intentionally kept people close to them who are like-minded: Specifically, those who put their marriages and families first. Those who, as Henry put it, are not destructive. They will not sit in the company of a couple who are not respectful of each other (a least not more than once).
I love how in just this short excerpt of Fawn’s conversation with Henry and Pat, there’s a beam of wisdom shared. Many married couples struggle with distancing themselves with other couples who are not like-minded. You can imagine how associating with another couple who always has something negative to say about each other is destructive. If nothing else, it plants seeds of discord which can manifest down the road.
I’m considering a monthly YouTube review of this book. A couple of chapters at a time. I just think it would be awesome to share some of my insights and hear your thoughts and experiences as well. What do you think?
Dishes, laundry, dinner, a quick post and off to pick up the kids…the life of a mom.
I love wearing sequins in the daytime. No special occassion. Just. Because.
p.s. These are pre-pregnancy pics I found on my computer and wanted to share.
I wore this little number to a wedding recently, but let me tell you how this all began. Now mind you, I was put on notice of the wedding; a month or so prior give or take. I figured, I had something I could just pull out of the closet and so I didn’t give it a second thought until the day before. Mistake #1. I pulled out a couple of options and hung them up, proud that I not only had one dress I could wear but a few different dresses to choose from. I even patted myself on the back for get a jump on things and picking my outfit early. Oh, but did I mention…I picked my dress options but I failed to try them on. Mistake #2. Now that my belly is “great with child” I always underestimate what I can and can’t wear. On the day of the wedding, I tried on this lavender beauty above first. It was too tight. I didn’t like the way my arms looked. It was too sheer. Pulled it off and put on a black long sleeve dress. What was I thinking, black to a wedding? Plus, the sleeves were long and I knew I’d be a ball of sweat before I even got out of the car. Option three was a cream colored maxi dress. It was almost perfect except the elastic waistband wasn’t so elastic. Finally, all out of options, I put the lavender dress back on and guess what, it was perfect! Funny how things work out when you’re all out of options.
You’re probably nothing like me. You probably try your outfits on in advance and know exactly what you’re wearing! One day.
My Dearest Girls,
You are smart! You are kind! And you are important!
By the time you read this letter, your dad and I will have made you to repeat these statements more times than you care to count, praying that you will eventually internalized them and believe them. By the time you read this letter, you will have had your first (or second crush), you’ll have experienced disappointment with friends, you’ll have fallen out with each other and reconciled. By the time you read this letter, you’ll have played in each others’ clothes and mine and you’ll have confided in each other things that you may never share with me.
I think about the many nights when the house was asleep and I stared at your sweet faces; looking for traces of your day. Had someone hurt your feelings? Did you remember your Bible Verse? Did you find a seat at lunchtime? Were my constant reminders to sit up straight, smile, say ‘yes’ instead of ‘ya’, cross your legs, make good choices, look both ways before crossing the street, think of others first…making a difference? Was I being a good mom to you? Was I setting a good example of a godly wife, mother and woman. I cried those nights. An explanation of why, could only fully be understood through the experience of having children of your own and the undying incomparable love that comes with motherhood.
Today is Valentine’s Day and with trepidation I anticipate the day that you experience true love for the first time. When you meet someone who is patient and kind you will know love. Someone who is not jealous, does not brag, and is not proud you will know love. Someone who is not rude, selfish, and cannot be easily angered you will know love. He will not recall to your remembrance wrongs done against him. He is never happy when others do wrong, but it is always happy with the truth. He will never give up on you. He will never stops trusting you, lose hope in you, or quits on you (1 Cor 13: 4-7). When God brings you that man who embodies this kind of love, you will experience true love. But more important; to know love you must first love yourself. You have to be patient and kind with yourself. You have to forgive yourself and others. You have to always keep hope in you heart and never give up on yourself.
I thank God now because I have faith that the husband He sends to each of you will be all the wonderful things I found in your father. He will remind you of how beautiful and wonderful you are and how much of a blessing you are. He will love you and cherish you. He will be a great father and provider. He will encourage you to believe in yourself. He will lift you up during your times of trial and he will cover you with prayer. And most of all, he will love you like nobody’s business. Just like your dad.
Your father and I have and will pour everything we have, know and believe into your lives because we love you. We know you will make mistakes, yet we love you. We know you will have bad days, yet we love you. We know you will be upset with us on occasion, yet we love you. You are our daughters, our most beloved creation and gift from God.
Happy Valentine’s Day Julia and Jayde! You will forever be mommy’s special Valentine’s.
I’d like to say I can blame all my clothing stains on the fact that I have 3 kids running around, but the awful truth is that I’m clumsy. I mean, since childhood, I’ve always been the one to drop my plate on myself, spray my fizzy can of soda all over my clothes or knock a gallon of milk onto my lap. It’s a wonder my parents kept me indoors.
Yes, I’m much older now and I seem to have gotten a control of my clumsiness for the most part, however, there are still times when I drop an uncapped pen into my lap, or the coffee that I’m guzzling in the car decides to pull a fast one and jump out of my cup and into my top (true story). Alas, while my clumsiness can take the blame for the stains that mysteriously appear on my clothes, it can’t take the blame for the stains on the clothes on the other beings in house. some of them are kind of normal, like antiperspirant, sweat…chocolate. Regardless, of the when, why and how, I think we can all agree that life would be much happier if we could just banish stains from existence, but until Apple creates an app for that, here’s a list of some of the common clothing stain removing secrets.
HOW TO REMOVE GUM: Gum and ice don’t mix. In fact, when you apply ice to gum and freeze it, the gum will crack and can be gently pulled away from clothing. If the garment is leather and small enough to fit in the freezer, stick it in an airtight bag and place it in the freezer for an hour. The ice should chip off once you take it out. If the item is too big for the freezer, place an ice pack on the item and let it sit for an hour until the gum hardens enough to chip away. The key, let it freeze! Gum and ice don’t mix and neither does heat. Submerge the garment in very hot water and let it soak for a few minutes. While holding the garment under water, gently brush the gum off using a toothbrush or sharp knife to scrape the gum off. This option is not best for delicate or expensive garments.
HOW TO REMOVE CHOCOLATE STAINS: If you can, turn the garment inside out and wash it with cold water. You can also try removing chocolate stains using a toothbrush and baby powder or corn starch to work into the stain. Depending on how delicate your garment is you can also try using rubbing alcohol to remove chocolate stains. Use a clean cloth and a dab of alcohol to blot the stain out.
HOW TO REMOVE COFFEE STAINS: Here are 3 ways you can clean up your garment. (1) You’ll need to mix a solution of 1/2 tsp white vinegar to 2 cups of cold water. Mix it good. Once mixed grab a clean, preferably new, sponge and dab the solution onto the fabric. You will see the stain slowly begin to fade. Do not rinse garment, allow to air dry. (2) Here’s another option. Soak the stain in a solution of 1 quart warm water and 1/2 teaspoon dishwashing detergent for 15 minutes. Be sure and check the care instructions of the garment first to make sure bleach will not harm the garment. Many dishwashing detergents have measurements of bleach. You might also treat an inconspicuous area of the garment first. Rinse garment with water. Next, sponge the stain with rubbing alcohol. Allow the garment to air dry. (3) Stretch the stained area over a bowl and secure with a rubber band. Pour boiling water through the stain. Be careful, it’s boiling water. Although cotton and linen can stand boiling water, some of the finishes and colors used on the fabrics might be damaged by such harsh treatment so again, make sure to test this option in an inconspicuous are of the garment if your unsure.
HOW TO REMOVE INK STAINS: Here are 3 ways to remove ink stains. (1) You’ll need a can of aerosol hairspray. Nothing fancy. Something simply like Aquanet will do the trick. Spray the garment enough to dampen it. Do not over-saturate. Then, massage some spray into the stain. Run it under cold water and allow it to airdry. (2) Apply rubbing alcohol to the stain and cover with a cotton pad. Just like when you to the nail salon and the nail lady sometimes leaves a cotton swab soaked in nail polish remover on your nail; like that. You’ll notice the stain begin to lift into the pad; change pad immediately. Keep both the stain and pad moist with alcohol. Flush with alcohol and allow to dry. (3) Last option is to soak in a solution of 1 quart warm water, 1/2 teaspoon dishwashing detergent, and 1 tablespoon ammonia for 30 minutes. Rinse thoroughly with water and allow to dry.
HOW TO REMOVE SWEAT STAINS: Here are a few tricks you can try. (1) Apply a mixture of equal parts water and baking soda to the stain and allow to dry. Rinse the garment. (2) Allow the garment to soak in salt water for 30 minutes. And a couple tips. Never iron over sweat stains. This will seal the stain into the garment. To prevent stains you attach a single thin pantyliner to the each armpit of a tighter fitting garment.
Special thanks to my buddy Eboni, for allowing me to guest blog for her today. She’s a super fashion foward sweetheart living in Atlanta with her husband. Look her up!